The Last Miley Cyrus Post Ever.
Some may find the content of this post and the one I published earlier in the week to be a a bit off topic, but I disagree. In examining a high-profile performance that millions of our children have seen, probably multiple times, I am asking parents to thoughtfully consider the ramifications of what Miley Cyrus tried to do last Sunday night, and how it reflects on the culture our children are growing into.
But there are two other blog posts, coming at this thing from very different perspectives, that raise pretty big questions about what we as a country saw (or didn’t see) on Sunday night. Both posts go beyond the hype and steer clear of easy (and not particularly accurate) value judgements about Miley and Co’s “controversial” decisions.
1. THE DUDES:
In the wake of Miley’s VMA spectacle, many articles and blog posts were written around the idea of “How to Talk To Your Daughter About Miley Cyrus.” But the Blog Eric Clapp 3.0 writes in How to Talk To Your Sons About Robin Thicke, that our culture is ignoring a very important piece of the conversation; the fact that the men involved in Miley’s performance have gotten off scott free (although I did, ahem, identify them as “a trio of douchebag alpha males who seemed like they only bothered to show up to collect paychecks and increase their own falsified narratives and bullshit notorieties” but, really I digress…) Here is the thesis quote of the article and I urge you to read the entire article: “Are we really going to have another one-sided conversation where we only talk to the girls about their sexuality while we completely ignore the boys in the room about their standards of behavior too?”
2. THE RACISM:
No, friends, sorry. We are NOT living in a post-racial society, and the responses outlined in the article Solidarity is For White Women will tell you, with great insight and not a small amount of pain, why Miley’s VMA performance was “one of the most racist displays” the author has ever seen. Here is the thesis quote: “Here’s the thing: historically, black women have had very little agency over their bodies. From being raped by white slave masters to the ever-enduring stereotype that black women can’t be raped, black women have been told over and over and over again, that their bodies are not their own. By bringing these “homegirls with the big butts” out onto the stage with her and engaging in a one-sided interaction with her ass, (not even her actual person!) Miley has contributed to that rhetoric.” Read the entire article. It matters.
Both of these posts go a long way to illustrate what has been missing from the buzz over Miley’s performance. Sadly, most of the rhetoric ignores the performance’s celebration of spiritual emptiness, it’s racism and miscosogeny, and instead issued the men a free pass and focused on slut shaming Miley. Sad.
We (the media and the masses) just continue to cry “for shame!” while completely missing the point.
Read both of these articles. If you allowed your kids to watch the VMA’s last Sunday, I challenge you to talk to them about what they actually saw, and help them understand why it is important for their generation to enlighten themselves about what it actually meant.